The 12 Palms rehab blog publishes weekly addiction related articles directed to help and guide families and addicts on the addiction treatment and recovery.
In our minds, we all have an idea of what life is supposed to be like. These ideals can extend into various aspects of our lives – from our relationships to our families, to our children, our work and more. Striving for perfection is a noble endeavor, but only if we are also able to understand and accept our limitations, which we all have; otherwise, we set ourselves up for constant disappointment. Life rarely goes according to plan, and those who expect things to be perfect are going to be regularly disappointed.
The same is true for substance abusers who enter recovery with high expectations of themselves; they develop an all-or-nothing approach to sobriety that sets them up for disappointment and threatens their chances for an enduring recovery.
It’s not unusual for people who give up an addiction to alcohol or drugs to become perfectionists. This might seem counter-intuitive, since substance abusers will often have wasted many years doing something that was clearly self-destructive – the opposite of self-perfection. But the reality is they may have always been perfectionists who turned to substance abuse to deal with their sense of failure at living up to their own lofty standards.
When a perfectionist becomes sober, their tendency towards perfectionism can return with a vengeance, and can sabotage their own recovery. By putting excessive demands on themselves, they ensure they will fail, which justifies a relapse back to addiction.
At 12 Palms Recovery Center, our therapists understand how perfectionism and all-or- nothing thinking works against a lasting recovery. We teach our clients ways to control their perfectionism in order to help them escape from addiction, including:
By getting sober, the perfectionist is already on the right path, and they should feel good about that. All they have to do is to keep on walking that path and it will take them where they need to go. If you or someone you love is ready to take that first important step towards sobriety, call 12 Palms today toll free at 1-866-331-6779.
“If someone wants to get sober, this is a wonderful place to do it...12 Palms saved my life.”
— Fred
“When an addict is finally willing to admit that they are completely powerless over their addiction and need help recovering, they are left with a choice.”